Entitled 24-year-old niece refuses to clean aunt's apartment where she stays rent free, roommate exposes her sloppy habits and gets her kicked out: "Her utter laziness is mind boggling"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Mar 17, 2025 8:00 PM EDT

One's early twenites are a difficult time for most people. Many just went through college, bidding a final adieau to a lifetime of institutional structure. The transition from a school-dominated life to complete independence can be incredibly difficult. You suddenly don't have grades to mark your progress, homework to keep you busy, or a schedule full of classes to keep you motivated to get out of the house. Many feel aimless for a while and overwhelmed by the monthly cost of just existing.

In our story today, a young woman is relieved of some of the financial weight of figuring out her life by being allowed to live rent free at her aunt's house. She and her bestie move in together with the only caveat being that they should respect her home and keep it clean. However, it quickly becomes clear that our protagonist is the only one maintaining her end of the deal. She rats out her sloppy roomie to her own aunt, putting her on the chopping block. Scroll down for the full story. 

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    AITA for throwing my roommate under the bus to her aunt

    "She doesn't believe she should have to lift a finger to keep the house clean."
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    I (22F) live with my best friend, who I'll call, "Sarah," (24F) and her aunt. A little over a year ago, we moved states and into Sarah's aunt's house. She graciously offered to let us live in her house RENT
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    FREE while we get on our feet and figure out where to move next. Simply, on the condition that we keep her house clean and complete weekly chores and respect her house. Ever since moving in, I've slowly
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    discovered the astonishing entitlement of my best friend. Her lack of consideration for others, lack of cleanliness, and just utter laziness is mind boggling. She doesn't believe she should have to lift a finger to keep the house clean and I have no idea why. I will spend hours vacuuming, mopping, cleaning the
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  • Perhaps roomie feels entitled to having a free maid because it's her aunt's house; it's pretty cruel to treat a friend like this.

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    kitchen, feeding the cats and cleaning their bowls (none of the cats belong to me,) etc. This keeps her aunt happy. However, when I am away for a couple days, or working long hours and not home, the weekly tasks do not get done, resulting in a tongue
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    lashing from my Sarah's aunt at both of us. I have bit my tongue for now a year, not throwing my friend under the bus and taking equal blame for the filthy. state of the house. (The mess is almost entirely created by Sarah.) This week, I haven't been home because I've been dog sitting. Instead of taking
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    initiative to do the weekly chores, sarah of course spent the week on the couch, leaving trash on the table and sofa for me to clean up. Except I didn't get to it in time, her aunt saw that the floors weren't vacuumed, the kitchen a mess, and the living room trashed. So again, we were called down for a house meeting. Amid being berated, I freaked the f out.
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    I let it all loose, went on about how unfair it is that I have to clean the entire house with no help from sarah, then watch it all get undone within the span of a day BY sarah, and then get the same berating
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    as sarah. Now of course, she is mad at me and giving me the silent treatment. But I'm done. I've begged her before to help me clean, but I shouldn't have to, she's a grown adult and the fact that I have to nag her to complete her share of the tasks is ridiculous enough.
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    wesmorgan1 INFO: How did the aunt respond to this?
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    heartshapesunglassez OP It seemed to be obvious to her how my friend clearly does very little to help, but she didn't realize the severity of it. She apologized to me and threatened to kick my friend out
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    wesmorgan1 That's good to hear. Sarah may cool off once she realizes how much rent costs are these days; let it ride for a bit. You might consider a chore chart (with chores alternating weekly between you) just to remove any need to talk about it again and again...
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    ChuckieLow The consequences of your speaking up: your friend is mad at you. The consequences of not speaking up: Aunt is mad at, throws you out Sarah STILL refuses to do anything and expects to move in to your next place together. sarah thinks it's funny or boring or whatever that she
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    has to sit thru your weekly lectures and auntie's monthly lectures. Then she gets on with her day. You deal with everything. Future you will be thanking today you whenever you move on that Sarah won't ask you to share again, or if she does, you can say, "we know it doesn't work." and shut that crop down.
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    SVAuspicious u/heartshapesunglassez, NTA. I see a future in which you and your "friend's" aunt live very happily together and your "friend" gets kicked to the curb.
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    Junior-Author6225 Right? OP and the aunt sound like the real dream team here. Sarah might wanna start looking for a new couch to lounge on.
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    Existing-Blueberry64 Honestly I feel like that would be for the best and would possibly make her realize she's not royalty and needs to clean for herself
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  • Unfortunately, being great friends does no always translate to being amazing roommates. Some people are just for hanging out with, not living with.

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    Younggod9 NTA You covered for her lazy bt for a year and she still couldn't step up. You had every right to call it out why should you keep taking the heat for her mess...If she mad that's just guilt disguised as attitude. Let her sulk and maybe now she'll finally pull her weight
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    StyraxCarillon NTA. How did the aunt not notice you weren't home for a week, and why would she hold you responsible? Didn't she see the mess getting worse every day when you weren't there?
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    Next time please don't wait an entire year to talk to your landlord about a situation like this. You didn't do your best friend any favors by enabling her to be lazy and entitled.
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    zi76 NTA. Sarah probably intuitively thought, and this was reinforced by you not saying anything and doing all of the house work, that you were tacitly agreeing to clean up the house in exchange for living there for free. It's her aunt's house, not your aunt's house, so she probably thought she was doing you a big favor.
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    Sarah's expectations and understandings are the problem here. All three of you could sit down and fix the situation by making some sort of agreement, but I don't know how well it'll go.
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    ChuckieLow But Sarah not picking up after herself, expecting the house to be cleaned like a child living at home is very different from "Sarah doesn't mop, vacuum or scrub the toilet/shower." It's one thing to think, oh, friend can do the cleaning cuz I got us this sweet place. She's on another level: It my aunt's place, she can be my maid.
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    ApprehensiveBook4214 YTA to yourself. Living rent free is contingent on keeping the house clean. You allowed the aunt to think you're equally responsible for it being a mess. Thereby jeopardizing your free rent. You also
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    denied the aunt important information about one of her tenants. You should have said something the first time. NTA for finally speaking up. Sarah isn't your friend. A friend wouldn't treat you like this and jeopardize your living situation.
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    KS7360 NTA - I think it's completely reasonable how you reacted, but in the moment could have been seen as quite explosive. Maybe once you're feeling a bit cooled down, you could try and explain it to her, but equally that's not your job to. She's old enough to realise she should pull her weight around the place.
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